Thursday, September 4, 2008

Trying times...

As has been stated many, many times, PCOS is one of the major causes of infertility in women. For a couple that desperately wants children, this can, at times, either make or break a marriage.

I can remember when my husband and I finally decided that we wanted to try to have a baby after being married for almost 4 years. Month after month, I would be disappointed again and again when I realized I was not pregnant. I was extremely lucky in that my husband wanted kids just as much as I did, so he went through the same disappointed that I did.

That's not always the case. There are times when the husband doesn't truly want kids, or is unsure about it. So that leaves the burden on the wife to go through it alone. There are also times when the husband is the one that wants the kids more than the wife! I'm sure at times like that, the wife could actually feel like she is letting the husband down.

Occasionally, couples have decided that they've needed to see a Marriage Counselor in order to help each other understand what they are going through. If there are already children in the family, they may even look into Marriage Family Counseling to help the kids understand things as well. Many marriages have been saved because they have found a way to neutralize their problems and implement a program of positive relationship habits that change the way they relate to each other.

If infertility is causing problems in your relationship and you want to learn how to save your marriage, definitely look into seeking outside help before you proceed any further with trying to have a baby.

2 comments:

The Pelletier Family said...

Most of us are so consumed with PCOS and trying for a baby, we often let our marriage fall to second, or third.... Its important for us to consider the stress this all puts on our relationships.
Unfortunately most don't realize it until its too late... Excellent post!

Pamela
http://www.pcosinfo.com

Holly Bartlett said...

Very true!! Keep up with your blog, it is wonderful!